Be kind to Yourself

Randomly remember when I interviewed for the role of a writer as an undergraduate in a media company a few years back during one of the numerous ASUU strikes and the MD asked me what happens to the work when you have writer’s block? and I was like me?? writers’ block?? Never!!! When I am sad, I write when I am happy, I still write; writing is the only thing I can do effortlessly, irrespective of my mood, I got the job and many years later, I am saying to myself that I lied when I am sad I write incoherent words, and when I am moody, I write words that no one should ever read.

I made a decision to post at least one article every month irrespective of what life throws at me, but this month was a struggle for me, so this is me showing up and posting some nice pictures taken by my sweet brother who you guys should check out, btw.(Kobiephotography on IG)

This month had me in my feelings for various reasons, and I found myself in such a foul mood at different intervals, and I tried so hard to snap myself out of it and tbh it has not been easy. In the midst of me being in my feelings, one thing I am learning to do is to show up for myself as much as possible and try to exist in my own life, I hope that you get what I am saying here.
Another thing I am learning to do is to lean into the support of my friends, when I am in a bad place, I just want to be in my shell and not talk to anyone, but recently I am understanding that you need a support system. I had a lengthy talk with one of my favourite people, and she emphasised the need to be kind to myself, reminded me of all the great things that have happened to me and to us and in the words of Brene Brown ‘Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love’.

Lastly, I want to emphasise the importance of Hope, Hope is the only thing we live for, what is life without hope, in Job 14vs 17, the good book says that Even a tree has more hope! If it is cut down, it will sprout again and grow new branches. So I am clinging to this word that this time next year I will be in a better and perhaps be able to share the testimony of how I overcame.
I hope that this is a word in time for me and every one of us as we enter into the last quarter of this year; give yourself grace, allow yourself to feel, but be grateful for how far you have come, also give yourselves permission to forgive your mistakes and shortcomings.

Sending you warm hugs and kisses.
It would be nice if you dropped a word or two for me.

I am desperately in need of them.